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🕒 "One day in the life of a sexologist: myths vs reality"Whe..
Published: July 8th 2025, 8:15:58 am
🕒 "One day in the life of a sexologist: myths vs reality"
When I tell people that I am a sexologist, most often I see one of two reactions:
Eyes are expanding: "Wow, this is probably your day!"
Crooked grin: “So you ... do this all day, right? 😉 "
Well. Let's dispel myths.
Myth No. 1: The sexologist talks all day about poses, orgasm and BDSM
📌 Reality:
80% of the time is talking about anxiety, fear of intimacy, unrealized expectations, self -esteem and ... guilt.
A little like psychotherapy, but with an emphasis on the body, feelings and intimacy.
And the poses ... well, sometimes there are, but this is not the session of the session 😅
Myth No. 2: My patients are always “sexually liberated” people in latex
📌 Reality:
Most often, these are good, tired people in a sweatshirt and jeans who just want them to manage their proximity.
Men come with anxiety because of failures, women-with resentment and misunderstanding, couples-in the hope of feeling each other again.
Yes, sometimes there are unexpected cases, but rather these are jokes for a narrow circle of colleagues 😄
Myth No. 3: A sexologist lives like a hero from an erotic film
📌 Reality:
Morning: oatmeal, coffee, thoughts like "so, do not forget to print a training manual."
Day: 5 consultations, a break - a snack of banana in the corridor.
Evening: working notes, messages from customers with the phrase "Sorry, but you can question ...".
Night: I dream not about sex, but about blanket and silence. 🤷♂️
Myth No. 4: Sexologists know everything and are never mistaken in relationships
📌 Reality:
We are also people. Complex, feeling, sometimes tired and ... imperfect.
But we have one difference: we can reflect and admit that we need to work in a relationship.
You need to understand, listen, talk.
And yes, I was also once angry and was silent. Now - I try differently.
👉 If my work looked, as some people think, I would already write the book “50 Shades of Reception”.
In the meantime, I just try to be useful, to speak honestly and without a taboo.
Because sexuality is not only about “how”, but also about “why” and “with whom”.
👀 I wonder what you would ask the sexologist if there were no constraint?
Write in the comments anonymously or not - I will answer honestly.
And yes, no question is “stupid”. There is only one that you never set.