My Attractions are Different. Being Asexual makes me feel s..
Published: July 8th 2021, 5:33:11 pm
My Attractions are Different.
Being Asexual makes me feel so alien when shows and sitcoms prioritize the healthy frolicking, and usually toxic, alpha male as he fucks everyone he's attracted to. However, that's not how I view it.
When I'm attracted to somebody I feel interested in their lives. I want to say 'hi,' and talk to them. When I have a crush on somebody I want to be near them. Sometimes hug them. The final form of my attraction comes down to do I want to cuddle them? If the answer is yes, then that's usually the type of person I would ask out... if I dated. Unfortunately, I don't date out of fear. Which means no cuddles, no hugs, no 'hello.'
I'm also very attracted to aesthetics. While I'm not sexually attracted to people, I do recognize people who are declared beautiful. However, the people I'm interested in usually have body types that reflect them. Like, there's this one girl I like who has a very complementary figure, but what attracts me to her figure is the fact that it could only be achieved on her. If somebody else had her butt, it wouldn't work on them, for example. And the aesthetics I'm attracted to are all over the place, and rarely the same. When I look at aesthetics, I look at how someone's aesthetics stand out for them. I'm not sure if I'm making myself clear, but I guess to boil it down. Some people are attracted to blondes, others with big boobs, but for me, I look to see how their overall body reflects their own self.
I hope this whole post made sense. I basically wanted to write it to say that while I'm interested in sex, that's not where my attraction lies and that my escalation of attraction is talking, hugs, and cuddles.